I Don’t Know Who Needs to Hear This, But Stop Arguing With Your Mum

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I used to argue a lot with women.
Especially my mum.

And it wasn't shouting or rage — it was that tight, subtle kind of arguing that comes from needing to be right. Needing to explain. Needing to correct. You know, autistic brain style — obsessed with logic, facts, fixing. I used to think that was maturity.

It wasn’t.

The turning point for me was when I stopped trying to fix my mum, stopped trying to prove anything. I just gave up the fight. Not from defeat, but from maturity. From compassion. I started to listen — not to agree, but to care.

And funnily enough… not long after, my wife showed up.

I don’t know who needs to hear this, but the way you treat your mum matters.
The energy you bring to her — that’s what you’ll bring into every relationship with a woman.
That’s what you’ll bring to your partner, your daughter, your sisters, your ex.

Masculinity — real masculinity — doesn’t defend.
It doesn’t seek approval.
It doesn’t need to be right.

It gives.
It holds.
It protects.

Women are not problems to solve.
They’re not puzzles to decode.
They’re not the enemy.

They’re responders. They respond to the environment — especially the emotional weather of the man closest to them. You create safety, they soften. You get reactive, they mirror it. You hold your ground with compassion, they rise. Simple as that.

And yeah, sometimes women will test you. React to you. Say things that sting. But they’re not trying to tear you down — they’re asking, "Can you hold this?"
Not just the moment, but me.

I’ve learned this: when you treat a woman like she has “precious” stamped on her, she reveals her real beauty.
And that goes for every woman.
Starting with your mother.

As the Bhagavad-gītā says:

kṣatriyo hi prabhur nārīṇāṁ
“A real protector is the lord of women.”
— Manu-saṁhitā 9.2, quoted by Śrīla Prabhupāda

He doesn’t exploit — he shields. He doesn’t dominate — he upholds.
This principle of protection is deeply rooted in Vedic dharma. The masculine role isn’t about power — it’s about shelter.

So be nice to your wife, love your mum and never argue with woman.

Hare Krishna

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