Muchu's Memoir | Fear of change
Doing things differently and doing different things
The fear of doing different seems to come from a fear of being different.
Changing who I think I am is scary being because have always been is all I have ever done.
Changing that is scary… like jumping off a cliff like in the cartoon.
Noticing that I don’t want to do things differently is a good start though.
Only from there, can I make a choice to do things differently. If I don’t even know that I am about to repeat an old behavior there’s little chance to break through.
One example for me is slowing down to do things or closing the gate behind me incase the wind blows the gate and wears on the hinges. Going to bed and waking up early is another one. Noticing what I am experiencing when it comes time to do the new behavior has proven to be a good step forward for me even if I don’t do anything new.
That’s because it allows me to reflect on why I do things the way I do, why I don’t want to do it newly and what I really want in the first place. It’s important to me to have a strong “why” if I am going to go outside of my comfort zone.
Love to hear your thoughts in the comment section or in a reply.
Thanks for that Muchu,
I think it opens to new paradigms.
Several quotes come to mind:
“If you are willing to do only what’s easy, life will be hard. But if you are willing to do what’s hard, life will be easy.” T Harv Eker – Secrets of the Millionaire Mind
“It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare that things are difficult.” ~Seneca
"In any given moment we have two options: to step forward into growth or to step back into safety." - Abraham H. Maslow
I find that fear has run my life on many levels. And the experience of freedom and peace that comes, and grows, when I risk this: "Do the thing[s] you [I ]fear, and the death of fear is certain."
And probably my favorite:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Marianne Williamson