SOULS ON FIRE #124 | "Of course it's Maya (illusion) But it's Hard"

Me: You should get married

Steve: I’m not interested in marriage right now. I just want to have sex with as many woman as possible.

Me: This is maya

Steve: I know it’s maya but it’s hard. Lust is the hardest thing to control.

This is one of the conversations I had via my DM on Instagram, and I can't help but feel extremely grateful to be married. He's right, sexual desire can be challenging to control, which is why Krishna created a divine system for managing it called marriage. It's that old-fashioned thing our grandparents did. Marriage is not always easy, as it requires us to confront our selfishness. But that's precisely the point. When done right, marriage transforms a boy into a man by gradually teaching him to prioritize others before himself.

In 2020 I shared with my coach that I was talking to a couple of woman on social media. He said locate yourself in the purport to 1.40 of Bhagavad Gita. I looked it up and realized I was doing what Prabhupada talks about in the last sentence.

I called both woman and said “I’m calling you to wish you well in your spiritual life and say good bye”
The first woman I called admitted it was a wise move and was chill about it.
When I called Isvari this is the conversation we had:

Me: Isvari, I’m calling you to let you know I’m talking with another woman. What’s the impact on you?

Isvari: Thanks for being honest with me.

Me: It’s irresponsible for me to be speaking with you so I’m calling you to wish you well and say good-bye. And I really like you.

Isvari: I like you too. So what are we going to do?

Me: I wasn’t expecting you to say that. We can either say good bye or talk about the possibility of a serious relationship.

Isvari: OK I’d like to do that then

Out of reading Bhagavad Gita and acting on it’s wisdom I literally got myself the wife of my dreams. I realize beyond any doubt that when I protect dharma, dharma protects me. Here’s the verse.

Chapter 1: Observing the Armies on the Battlefield of Kuruksetra

TEXT 40

adharmabhibhavat krsna
pradusyanti kula-striyah
strisu dustasu varsneya
jayate varna-sankarah

SYNONYMS

adharma—irreligion; abhibhavat—having been predominant; krsna—O Krsna; pradusyanti—become polluted; kula-striyah—family ladies; strisu —of the womanhood; dustasu—being so polluted; varsneya—O descendant of Vrsni; jayate—it so becomes; varna-sankarah—unwanted progeny.

TRANSLATION

When irreligion is prominent in the family, O Krsna, the women of the family become corrupt, and from the degradation of womanhood, O descendant of Vrsni, comes unwanted progeny.

PURPORT

Good population in human society is the basic principle for peace, prosperity and spiritual progress in life. The varnasrama religion's principles were so designed that the good population would prevail in society for the general spiritual progress of state and community. Such population depends on the chastity and faithfulness of its womanhood. As children are very prone to be misled, women are similarly very prone to degradation. Therefore, both children and women require protection by the elder members of the family. By being engaged in various religious practices, women will not be misled into adultery. According to Canakya Pandit, women are generally not very intelligent and therefore not trustworthy. So, the different family traditions of religious activities should always engage them, and thus their chastity and devotion will give birth to a good population eligible for participating in the varnasrama system. On the failure of such varnasrama-dharma, naturally the women become free to act and mix with men, and thus adultery is indulged in at the risk of unwanted population. Irresponsible men also provoke adultery in society, and thus unwanted children flood the human race at the risk of war and pestilence.