Today's Cartoon | Insecure Men

Today's cartoon takes inspiration from a conversation my wife and I had yesterday. We discussed how many men approach dating similarly to how most people approach job interviews. The word "interview" inherently implies two parties coming together to evaluate a potential mutual fit. It's not about someone scrutinizing you; it's about both parties assessing compatibility. If you view it as a win-lose situation, where your worth depends on their acceptance or approval, you might find yourself in a job you don't actually like, simply because you didn't evaluate the employer. Alternatively, you may take job rejections personally. Similarly, men often approach women with insecurity, focusing on gaining their acceptance rather than coming from a place of self-acceptance and security while searching for someone who reciprocates their feelings.

Approaching relationships with the mindset of "look for the one who's looking for you" led me to find the woman of my dreams. Here's a list of the qualities I desired in a partner a year or two before she came into my life:

• She's easygoing

• Ten years younger than me (she turned out to be 121 days younger)😂

• Intelligent and a critical thinker

• Attractive

• Fun

• caring

• Cool

• good cook

• Clean and tidy

• Happy

• calm

• Friendly

• loyal

• Submissive

• Committed to the relationship

• A bit silly

By embracing this perspective and focusing on mutual compatibility rather than one-sided approval, I found the fulfilling and harmonious relationship I had always hoped for.